EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE - SELF MANAGEMENT

 
When I started doing Project Management (a decade ago), mostly worked with Excels and some tools but never heard or intended about Emotional Intelligence. These days growing importance for emotional intelligence make me wonder why now??

After a bit of analyses I feel human evolvement made Emotional intelligence paramount these days. Maybe starts from Iceage all human beings started living to realize themselves, who he is and what is his capabilities- with one objective to survive-to comfort living- to luxury life which needs effort- effort need skills- Money to appreciate skills and its end there.

But now a days, it works backward- we find which job gives good money and improve the skill that suits the job, making luxury life. But now it’s the time we started thinking who really we are...so self-realization is the part giving a deep impact to our life. "Self-realization"  sounds like spiritual so I better use the word “self-awareness/self-Management. Self-awareness or improvement is like masturbation, when you start realizing the pleasure then you could give it to others.
There are lot of descriptions about emotional intelligence is available everywhere but mostly it doesn’t tell you “how”. We should look at this as a process than a onetime solution and the process should be a straight forward one.There are three main steps in emotional intelligence process and that starts with self-management (please forgive me if I sound like gospel talking about self-awareness ;)

1. Self-awareness - know yourself/ your emotions
2. Choose yourself- what is the pattern of my actions
3. Vision- what I want to achieve in future.

If we make any of our actions for short time achievement is called “pleasure". But considered for long term is called EQ.
On EQ the first experiment you could do by knowing

1. Know what you are feeling
2. Know what your options are     - and
3. What you ll achieve or it leads to

For every action you need to go through these 3 steps cycle ll lead to your emotional intelligence. It’s not that nobody has it, we all have it but just that we need to develop for betterment of your productivity in your Life or at your work place.